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Petite Anglaise

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I came across Petite Anglaise's blog (yes, she's a blogger, for those of you that don't know) a couple years ago.  Aside from excellent writing, I was drawn in by her story.......a thirty-something originally from England, she'd been living in Paris for about 10 years working for a British accounting firm.  She was also living with the father of her toddler daughter.....she maintained full anonymity, referring to herself as Petite Anglaise, the boyfriend as Mr. Frog and the daughter as Tadpole. 

 

I enjoyed reading her tidbits of life in Paris as a single mom. (Francophile that I am)  So while I didn't visit her blog as regularly as I did many others, I still managed to keep up with what was going on in her life.  She shared with her readers her restlessness with the relationship with Mr. Frog and then shared the new relationship with "Jim in Rennes" who was a frequent commenter on her blog.  Imagine my surprise the day I "tuned in" to find out she'd been sacked from her job.  Yup, fired.  For what?  For blogging!  Her company stated that she'd been less than kind in some of her blog posts about the bosses and further stated and tried to prove that she'd blogged on company time.  Long story short.....she did lose her job.  However, she contacted the French tribunal and ended up winning her case to the tune of approximately $44,000.  Once that story broke in the media, her anonymous Petite Anglaise was gone forever......that summer her blog readers found out her name was, in fact, Catherine Sanderson.

 

Due to all of the publicity (both in England and France) with the media, she was offered a very significant two book contract.  Frankly, I was dismayed that somebody could end up with a lucrative publishing contract based on her blogging.  But that's what happened. 

 

The book was released in the UK this past March and it just hit the bookshelves here in the States on June 17.  I wasn't going to order it.  I figured, well heck, I've read her blog.  I know her story.  How different can the book be?  But since I'd enjoyed her writing and I do like to support other authors when possible, I decided to pre-order the book this past March.  It arrived last week.  I read it in two days!

 

It was good, very good.  But what impressed me the most was how she took those blog posts and managed to weave them into a story that read like fiction.  And I was wrong.  Because she wrote from a deeper emotional depth in the book, it wasn't like her blog at all and I didn't feel like I was re-reading stuff I'd already read. 

 

But one thing struck me as I read along......and she even does make mention of this.  I had often wondered when reading her blog how much of the info was real.  I sometimes got the feeling that she was "playing her audience."  Well, come to find out, she was.  No, no......it's not that WHAT she said and told us wasn't true, but rather she embellished on it.  She admitted she felt a compulsion to share details (many times pretty intimate ones) with her readers.  She was hooked and what ended up happening was, that what started as an online diary and a diversion soon turned into a soap opera.  The lines between Catherine's real and virtual personas began to blur, tempting her to leave Mr. Frog for "Jim in Rennes."  She had created her own intoxicating alter ego.

 

I enjoyed the book a lot but I have to say, as I read along I detected a sadness from the author.  Maybe it was just me.  Maybe it was my instinct.  But I couldn't help but feel that here was a very intelligent, attractive, young woman living a nice life in Paris, and yet.......it didn't seem to be enough for her.  Somehow happiness had seemed to elude her. 

 

I can only hope that with the release of the book and her marriage on June 7......no, she didn't marry Jim from Rennes, nor did she marry Mr. Frog.......that she will now find the true meaning of happiness.

 

The book also got me to wondering about the blog world in general.........for the most part, I'd say what you see, is what you get with bloggers.  They post their real name, photos of their homes, their families, their dogs, etc.  But I'm sure there's a fair amount that create themselves in the blog world to their readers.  Perhaps they become that person they always wanted to be.  While I think blogging is wonderful and I've made some incredible friends, learned some unique things, I can't help but feel a sadness for some.  That rather than go "out" there and create their destiny.......somehow they settle for doing it through a keyboard. 

 

As bloggers and/or blog readers, I'd be very interested to hear your thoughts on this.

 

See you here next time.............

 

 

Posted on Wednesday, July 2, 2008 at 06:00AM by Registered CommenterTerri DuLong in , | Comments7 Comments

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I, too, have wondered if what I read on a blog is real or not. The internet does allow one to be anonymous, so maybe we do become the person we wished we could be. Hmmm, sounds like a great idea for a story (smile).
July 2, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMaureen
I think it's a mixture myself. As for me, I try to keep my blog light and personal. Once in a while I'll stray and post something more serious, but I believe in keeping a certain tone overall. Why drag all of your life's troubles into cyberspace? We all have our bears to cross. And we all know that.

Nice post, Terri. Perceptive, intuitive, revealing, etc.
July 3, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBig_Dave_T
I have come across a few blogs that read like soap operas or reality tv shows. I think that revealing oneself becomes potentially addictive and to keep it going people tell more and more as they would on some of the tv shows which encourage total revelation of all personal details. Frankly I don't read any blogs like that other than coming across as it makes me uncomfortable to be part of someone possibly damaging themselves in that way and for what purpose? Helping themselves? Getting readers? Getting caught up in the drama? I can see how it'd happen but am not willing to go there myself.

On the other hand, I have loved memoirs which can do the same thing; so not sure where to draw the line. An author a few years ago with a syndicated column and book was castigated for her revelations about her children, her husband and a past relationship with a famous author. So whether it's a book or a blog, there has to be a decision by each person regarding what they are comfortable writing or reading. I do enjoy getting to know people through their blogs and that can be done without every single detail being revealed.

For me on my blog, I use a name that I gave myself years before I began the blog. It's mine but not my daily name. When I began my blog, I did this mostly for protection as having done chat rooms earlier, I knew how easy it was for people to become fascinated or obsessed about a stranger to a point that it becomes scary. I tell friends, when I get to know people well enough, what my real name is but in the blog, it would take some figuring to come up with who I am and where I live exactly.

Other than my name though, everything I write is true about what I think or have experienced. I don't have time to do fiction except when it is fiction and characters I create for that purpose.

Once in awhile I do think about whether it would be better to use my rt name. I just haven't wanted to open my door and find an uninvited reader outside.
July 3, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterRain
I found Petite Anglaise fascinating. When I first found her blog I went back to the beginning and read the whole thing. I still haven't read her book-waiting for the paperback. I was disappointed with the book The Julia Julie Project after the blog because it wasn't anything new. I put personal things on my blog but nothing I wouldn't want my husband's ex to read as I found out she reads my blog. I started blogging to keep my friends and family up with my life in France when I moved here and it just grew from there. I find it fun and an interesting experience that really opened up my world but I can't get into Facebook-I don't have the patience for all of that silly stuff they do there so I guess my venture into Cyber world will end with my blog.
July 4, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterLinda
I've always had mixed feelings about my blogging. On the one hand I feel that my life is not all that exciting that anyone else would want to read about it. I think I started writing it in an effort to make myself do the creative writing I'd abandoned; now I find it's getting harder and harder to keep going. My real life keeps me busy and occupied enough, and I'm happy enough reading other's writing than doing my own. I've always thought that was the true test of a writer--the "have to write" feeling that I'm not sure I have. Then something will happen, a random comment here or there or a post I feel especially good about (though few and far between) and I'm back in there writing again. I appreciate this post, as I definitely feel a responsive post coming on. Now I think I'll just stop and listen to my muse. Who knows how long it'll take??????????
July 4, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAlice
This is so interesting Terri...! It is strange, like you, I feel that most of the people I read on a regular basis are exactly who they present themselves to be...And if someone is embellishing, I must say I has never even occured to me...Perhaps I am naive...
Here is a strange thought: I wonder if her book is a further embellishment of her life, you know? Not having read any of her blog or her book...I just throw that out to you---Well, really, out of nowhere....!
When I first started blogging, sometime in that first 6 months there was a person who wrote about some stuff happening in his/her life that seemed like a trashy novel....I have no idea what it was, but I stopped reading this person because ultimately I realized I didn't really care about what was being shared...And it all felt very unreal; fake; made up. It's the only time I have experienced that to my memory. I can certainly see how someone might use blogging to create a "made-up" life like they were writing about someone else in a novel...But that was the only time I felt I was being sort of duped, you know?
Is the person she is marrying anyone that was ever mentioned on her blog???
It is all a bit bizarre, isn't it?
Very good post, Terri. I have felt uncomfortable reading the blog Petite Anglaise because I sensed there was some embellishment going on. I just felt it somehow, as I have with a few other "big name" blogs. I sometimes feel the blogger is out there pretending, so he or she can attract attention and get a book contract.

I use a family nickname on my blog and I often change the names of streets and towns and people. I do this because of my job, which makes me a public figure in my community.

But the details are accurate and true.
July 13, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMimi

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